Darkened masculinity
What happens to a society without the presence of a dad? How is the behavior of a community in which the value of man has been underestimated and affected? Posing that there is a crisis for men is something out of the ordinary and not very well seen at present, and for the first time in the history of humanity, men are giving leadership to women. I do not want to say that this is bad, but it brings, as the past times did with the man in front, its consequences. Currently, any hint of masculinity is suppressed and silenced as intolerable. But is masculinity bad? Are the glimpses of masculinity signs of machismo? Men, as women were for many years, are “a misunderstood class” that has entered a change of its essence, from a sexual denial and rejection of its own masculinity, to an exaltation of deformed femininity.
What I am going to talk about next I learned in a book by María Calvo that deals specifically with how masculinity has been seen to gradually disappear behind female protagonism. As a woman, I recognize that we have been a disadvantaged class for many years, just as we have been part of a society where we are not seen as what we really are; But it is not about losing direction, but about creating a cause that values and respects everyone for what they are. And today, although to the chagrin of many and many, I intend to defend those men who have unknowingly forgotten how to be men. To those that feminism has stunned, confused, tired and unrecognizable, and those who have feminized for fear of showing their masculinity, the one that today is considered out of place. It is important to understand that a crisis for men, as well as women, brings us a crisis to the entire society. We have not realized that we are still fighting remarkably for equality between the sexes, but that at the same time we are closing the differences between them.
The function and image of man has been devalued by society over the years, and we have taken it upon ourselves to generalize to all those who have this genetic engineering. Since the revolution of ‘68, the female sex has been embodied as that “fair sex” and the male as the “oppressor”; we see them as the enemy to beat. The world has become an environment that seeks above all to transform men into something contrary to their own essence, turning them into a new “weaker sex.” It is sad to believe that these revolutions and struggles for equality lead us to want an apparent revenge against men, repressing them and forcing them to change. We live stunned by confusing a demand for respect with authoritarianism; an act of chivalry, with incompetence; an expression of virility, with machismo. But what then is this crisis that we are talking about? Men and women function in very different ways in terms of our psychology and anatomy. We cannot live in a society where we forget that there are differences between us; valuable differences that we should be proud of. Let’s fight for equality in rights, in opportunities and before the law; But let us not expect to be treated as men, nor do we expect men to be treated as women. There is a nature among us, and a perfectly created and ordered that we cannot come to destroy.
It is not about doing less to some, and more to others, but that we can form a society that works for the good of all and not only of those who have been oppressed. We, as women, have the right to be heard, and we are tired of being seen as secondary. But we are, together with men, part of the same society that should feel proud of being what it is. Of being a mother and being a father; of being dancers and engineers; of being lawyers and chefs. Have you not tired of hiding what by nature belongs to us and what makes us unique and different? Why fight to be the same, when we are complements? The male crisis is a crisis of humanity, which calls into question its most intimate characteristics. Let us stop annihilating our differences and begin to “humanize” the world, recognizing ourselves as equally worthy, different and complementary men and women.
